i am in Love. its a good thing. there are no better ways to feel so as one w/another. Its also a good way to enlightenment. as in the sky is our rooftop, our canopy, a chuppa under which to welcome our soul into our selves. open eyes and seeing through one i. am in LOVE!
and, still, Monkey!!!
Wednesday, July 9, 2008
The sweet life.
Yesterday, we did everything. Everything. My favorite part of the day was going to Dulcelandia to get the pinata candy. And to the library (had to throw that in there). We stopped at the Northtown Branch for a literary dose in the midst of the 88 degree-humid as all get out weather on our way to the beauty shop.
I don't know how to drive, and generally eschew the use of cars, but I'll tell ya, they do make life easier. Yesterday, we were able to: meet for falafel in Evanston, pick up the wedding rings (they're too big), get our beach gear, go bra shopping (you can tell we're not married yet, because Don waited for me for an hour in the parking lot reading while I shopped at Marshall's), get the candy, skip on down to the library and then head south. All in one afternoon. Had we relied on public transportation, all of this could have taken several days! A commercial for automobile use or a criticism of the sorry state of the CTA? You decide.
Tuesday, July 8, 2008
Haven't Blogged in Some Time Now, but Still Getting Married on Sunday
Yes, we are getting married this Sunday. In front of people. Well, some people anyway. I'll be pretty in pink (no white for this girl - I started hyperventilating in the eyelet section of the fabric store). We've been working on our 'drash for the Aufruf this Friday, but I still have to buy the all-important candy for folks to throw at us! We also need a glass for smashing and a kiddush cup.
What else needs to be done?
Decorations redux - Originally, I was going for red/yellow (Curious George), but blue and yellow goods were on sale. Which sports team has blue and yellow colors?? Team Don and Julie, I guess! I still might break down and trade the blue in for red. Ultimately, none of this really matters as long as the food is good. And, it will be, my friends, it will be!
And then, of course, there's the show, which we'll perform this weekend (both pre-and post wedding) at Skinner Park just west of Greektown in Chicago. If it doesn't rain. Although, so far torrential downpours haven't stopped people from coming out. They want their Shakespeare and often come dressed in rain slickers, bearing umbrellas. I love it!
What else needs to be done?
Decorations redux - Originally, I was going for red/yellow (Curious George), but blue and yellow goods were on sale. Which sports team has blue and yellow colors?? Team Don and Julie, I guess! I still might break down and trade the blue in for red. Ultimately, none of this really matters as long as the food is good. And, it will be, my friends, it will be!
And then, of course, there's the show, which we'll perform this weekend (both pre-and post wedding) at Skinner Park just west of Greektown in Chicago. If it doesn't rain. Although, so far torrential downpours haven't stopped people from coming out. They want their Shakespeare and often come dressed in rain slickers, bearing umbrellas. I love it!
Tuesday, April 29, 2008
Elopement.
Any day now...
Looks like it has to be this way, due to family issues. It's easier and hey, isn't this how so many people (including my grandmother) tied the knot back in the day??
p.s. I'm still getting a pretty dress though.
Looks like it has to be this way, due to family issues. It's easier and hey, isn't this how so many people (including my grandmother) tied the knot back in the day??
p.s. I'm still getting a pretty dress though.
Friday, April 25, 2008
back from Hiatus
Hello,
I have been present in other circles these past weeks, and they have wound around many occasions: my future inlaws marriage was a joyous event, and they are so happy with their new terms. Jenni likes to be called Peter's wife, and Peter likes to be called Jenni's husband. They are so cute!!!
Sweets and I really did a lot to make the wedding happen in a good way, and it was fun! Now, we are trying to figure out the order (seder, if you will) of our own special day... Any jewish wedding planners out there looking to build up their portfolio w/ an artists wedding (ie, shoestring variety)?
Seriously, though, we are up against some difficult, well, stuff, you know? We need to keep it special for us, but we don't want to put off the family... which is hard.
I have been present in other circles these past weeks, and they have wound around many occasions: my future inlaws marriage was a joyous event, and they are so happy with their new terms. Jenni likes to be called Peter's wife, and Peter likes to be called Jenni's husband. They are so cute!!!
Sweets and I really did a lot to make the wedding happen in a good way, and it was fun! Now, we are trying to figure out the order (seder, if you will) of our own special day... Any jewish wedding planners out there looking to build up their portfolio w/ an artists wedding (ie, shoestring variety)?
Seriously, though, we are up against some difficult, well, stuff, you know? We need to keep it special for us, but we don't want to put off the family... which is hard.
Tuesday, April 1, 2008
The Date.
Yes, we have decided on a date. And it is...July 13th. We'll be performing outside in Much Ado About Nothing and will tie the proverbial knot right after the show! Then we can have an intimate family dinner in Greektown. So, does anyone have a particular restaurant that they wish to recommend? We're thinking either Costa's, Santorini's or Rodity's.
Very cool. Very cool indeed. Now, how to convince my mother that this is a "very cool, very cool indeed" sort of idea?
Very cool. Very cool indeed. Now, how to convince my mother that this is a "very cool, very cool indeed" sort of idea?
Saturday, March 8, 2008
A Good Base.
The other night Monkey and I were discussing "tradition." Somehow, as I write that word, Topol's image comes to mind...
Don was saying that David Mamet once wrote about how a marriage won't work unless the ceremony is performed traditionally. What he meant by "tradition," we don't know. Jewish? Catholic? Sikh? Or did he simply mean adhering to the tenets of the tradition at hand. I wish Don could find that book or article so that I could read it for myself for then I could have a shot at deciphering Mamet's words. What I do have, however, is the following passage taken from a 2004 commencement speech Mamet gave at the University of Vermont.
Any ceremony insufficiently strict, whose requirements are other than rigorous, and which permits recidivism, is worthless. I cite, for example, the commitment ceremony rather than marriage – these weak ceremonies do not propel the young towards the pursuit of the secret knowledge. We may call this secret knowledge “God,” or, “The mystery of life and death,” or “How to comport oneself honorably in a troubling and confusing world,” or we may call it marriage, or vocation – but the society which kills, in the young, their desire, their necessity of truly matriculating, is wounding them.
I wonder if Mamet is referring to all commitment ceremonies or only those in which the participants could obtain a (state-sanctioned) marriage but, for whatever reason, choose not to. If it's the former, then I'm able to deduce that Mamet believes that commitment ceremonies performed on the behalf of gay and lesbian couples are, as he says, "worthless." However, if it's the latter, it's a different story entirely. But, still, what remains is the concept of "tradition."
I'm more keen on the concept of beshert. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be. And, by extension, if it isn't, it isn't.
Don was saying that David Mamet once wrote about how a marriage won't work unless the ceremony is performed traditionally. What he meant by "tradition," we don't know. Jewish? Catholic? Sikh? Or did he simply mean adhering to the tenets of the tradition at hand. I wish Don could find that book or article so that I could read it for myself for then I could have a shot at deciphering Mamet's words. What I do have, however, is the following passage taken from a 2004 commencement speech Mamet gave at the University of Vermont.
Any ceremony insufficiently strict, whose requirements are other than rigorous, and which permits recidivism, is worthless. I cite, for example, the commitment ceremony rather than marriage – these weak ceremonies do not propel the young towards the pursuit of the secret knowledge. We may call this secret knowledge “God,” or, “The mystery of life and death,” or “How to comport oneself honorably in a troubling and confusing world,” or we may call it marriage, or vocation – but the society which kills, in the young, their desire, their necessity of truly matriculating, is wounding them.
I wonder if Mamet is referring to all commitment ceremonies or only those in which the participants could obtain a (state-sanctioned) marriage but, for whatever reason, choose not to. If it's the former, then I'm able to deduce that Mamet believes that commitment ceremonies performed on the behalf of gay and lesbian couples are, as he says, "worthless." However, if it's the latter, it's a different story entirely. But, still, what remains is the concept of "tradition."
I'm more keen on the concept of beshert. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be. And, by extension, if it isn't, it isn't.
Wednesday, February 27, 2008
Thursday, February 21, 2008
What day is it?
wheeeee!!!
there are some things in life which are overlooked... as thrills I mean. One is jumping from a high place and landing firm. Nothing like that to make you catch your breath AND realize your rootedness. Another is being engaged. From the moment I finally asked Sweets if she'd marry me and she said yes I've felt so much myself AND something greater. As a groom (as I'll be until the Huppah!) I'm finding a lot of excitement in simply being with my betrothed, and planning, scheming, dreaming of what our future can be, and how we can celebrate it.
The only trouble is keeping in mind that means are important, and that that is part of what my bride and I must share, too. the logistics of how these plans, dreams, and schemes can be actuallized so that we're still breathing clearly and standing tall after the wedding canopy has come down and the rest of our lives has begun again.
there are some things in life which are overlooked... as thrills I mean. One is jumping from a high place and landing firm. Nothing like that to make you catch your breath AND realize your rootedness. Another is being engaged. From the moment I finally asked Sweets if she'd marry me and she said yes I've felt so much myself AND something greater. As a groom (as I'll be until the Huppah!) I'm finding a lot of excitement in simply being with my betrothed, and planning, scheming, dreaming of what our future can be, and how we can celebrate it.
The only trouble is keeping in mind that means are important, and that that is part of what my bride and I must share, too. the logistics of how these plans, dreams, and schemes can be actuallized so that we're still breathing clearly and standing tall after the wedding canopy has come down and the rest of our lives has begun again.
the little sabbath
of our public ring
filled with parents, friends, and love
will be pure joy
a pause in time
for all eternity
to witness our daybreak
yet from that sacred
moment we all will
gladly return the week
to the light of
our loving-kindness
and work to make
the world ready.
Note: click on Huppah above for an informative link!
of our public ring
filled with parents, friends, and love
will be pure joy
a pause in time
for all eternity
to witness our daybreak
yet from that sacred
moment we all will
gladly return the week
to the light of
our loving-kindness
and work to make
the world ready.
Note: click on Huppah above for an informative link!
Tuesday, February 19, 2008
Admission.
I admit it--I'm starting to think exclusively about "the Day." Although I usually eschew "typical" wedding-like things and ideas, I have just crossed over into The Wedding Zone. Normally afraid of being viewed as superficical or self-centered, I have decided that I do want to have something special for Don and I to share with close friends and family. We've already discussed the whole elopement thing, which would of course, be the easiest, but is it what we really want??? Anyway, I feel fortunate to have so many options at my reach, especially because so many other people in the world don't. I'm completely open to comments from any of you who have planned weddings because, although some consider me to be creative and organized, most of you know that I do tend to become overwhelmed easily.
Oh, details on matching t-shirts to come...
Double Oh...Monkey is cute!
Oh, details on matching t-shirts to come...
Double Oh...Monkey is cute!
Monday, February 18, 2008
weather outside
listen to the wind
howling at the streetlamps - its
nearly twilight, and
I'm so glad i'm inside
sdfWell, hanging upside down in trees and sucking on bananas has finally given me courage to try something new... a blog post!
Sweets and I made lists last night and thought about what kinda shindig we wanted to throw for ourselves. We found nothing conclusive, but have begun to, shall we say, include some possibilities. It sounds like we'll have tableclothes, in any event. And I will probably be dressed in white. and its looking sooner than later, which makes me happy.
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howling at the streetlamps - its
nearly twilight, and
I'm so glad i'm inside
sdfWell, hanging upside down in trees and sucking on bananas has finally given me courage to try something new... a blog post!
Sweets and I made lists last night and thought about what kinda shindig we wanted to throw for ourselves. We found nothing conclusive, but have begun to, shall we say, include some possibilities. It sounds like we'll have tableclothes, in any event. And I will probably be dressed in white. and its looking sooner than later, which makes me happy.
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Who we are.
Hi - Don (Monkey) and Julie (Sweet) here. We've started a blog about our upcoming nuptuals. Yes, it is a dirty word, isn't it?? Anyway, this is just a test post, but expect to see a lot more as we plan our big day. Cliché? Methinks not!
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